Comments on: Straddling http://fybix.com/2006/04/27/straddling/ Techy, Linux, Ping Pong, Okinawa, Marine, Photography, SEO, Christopher Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:19:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Ripped at fybix.net …it could be worse… http://fybix.com/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3894 Ripped at fybix.net …it could be worse… Thu, 13 Jul 2006 15:22:13 +0000 http://fybix.net/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3894 [...] You know she really helps out her little bro. Me on the other hand, my brother needs me, but I am far, far away. I want to go back and get him up on his feet again, but its hard. I haven’t talked about it, but he quit his job at the Wash Tub. I think he did this because I wasn’t there to nag him and make sure he was going. Everything was going good for him too. FUCK! He had a job, getting his GED, wasn’t staying out late and man….I left. You can’t sit there and tell me it wasn’t my fault, so now I understand why my mother dislikes me being and staying and marrying over here. She just can’t stand the fact that I gave up on my family. I left them in their time of need. Now everything is all fucked up over there and I ain’t planning on coming back for at least a year. Should I go back sooner? Fucking A. [...] [...] You know she really helps out her little bro. Me on the other hand, my brother needs me, but I am far, far away. I want to go back and get him up on his feet again, but its hard. I haven’t talked about it, but he quit his job at the Wash Tub. I think he did this because I wasn’t there to nag him and make sure he was going. Everything was going good for him too. FUCK! He had a job, getting his GED, wasn’t staying out late and man….I left. You can’t sit there and tell me it wasn’t my fault, so now I understand why my mother dislikes me being and staying and marrying over here. She just can’t stand the fact that I gave up on my family. I left them in their time of need. Now everything is all fucked up over there and I ain’t planning on coming back for at least a year. Should I go back sooner? Fucking A. [...]

]]> By: fybix.net …it could be worse… » Skepticism http://fybix.com/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3402 fybix.net …it could be worse… » Skepticism Tue, 02 May 2006 08:49:57 +0000 http://fybix.net/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3402 [...] Simple pleasures like this is what I am waiting for, and I’ve waited for awhile, and I’ve planned for awhile. I now find that my plans are invalid with what choices I have made in the past year. And again, I am Straddling betweeen two people. Although I know which choice I am going to make, I still feel obligated to please the other, this time, its between the two most important females in my life. My girlfriend and my Mom. Here is the dilema. When I get out of the Marine Corps, my Mom wants me to go home, to San Antonio, Texas and begin school and get a decent job. She says this way, I can get our house and when Hiromi comes to the States, we have everything ready. Nothing for her to worry about. On the other hand, I got Hiromi’s Mom saying that she is allowed to marry me, but she doesn’t want her to leave Okinawa for at least a few years. What is a few? I don’t know, but Hiromi makes it sound likes its three or two. I hope she and her Mother are on the same wavelenght about that one. She says stay in Japan for awhile, then go to the States, this way, any “problems” or bumps that may occur can be hashed out with her family. This is greatly due to the bad taste American marriages have left in her Mom’s memory. Americans will marry their Japanese girlfriend and take them back to the States, away from any Japanese speaking friends or family. When they fight, the American is free to talk to anyone of his friends, but for the Japanese girl, it ain’t so easy. Its hard to cope with everyone you know thousands of miles away… [...] [...] Simple pleasures like this is what I am waiting for, and I’ve waited for awhile, and I’ve planned for awhile. I now find that my plans are invalid with what choices I have made in the past year. And again, I am Straddling betweeen two people. Although I know which choice I am going to make, I still feel obligated to please the other, this time, its between the two most important females in my life. My girlfriend and my Mom. Here is the dilema. When I get out of the Marine Corps, my Mom wants me to go home, to San Antonio, Texas and begin school and get a decent job. She says this way, I can get our house and when Hiromi comes to the States, we have everything ready. Nothing for her to worry about. On the other hand, I got Hiromi’s Mom saying that she is allowed to marry me, but she doesn’t want her to leave Okinawa for at least a few years. What is a few? I don’t know, but Hiromi makes it sound likes its three or two. I hope she and her Mother are on the same wavelenght about that one. She says stay in Japan for awhile, then go to the States, this way, any “problems” or bumps that may occur can be hashed out with her family. This is greatly due to the bad taste American marriages have left in her Mom’s memory. Americans will marry their Japanese girlfriend and take them back to the States, away from any Japanese speaking friends or family. When they fight, the American is free to talk to anyone of his friends, but for the Japanese girl, it ain’t so easy. Its hard to cope with everyone you know thousands of miles away… [...]

]]> By: Michele http://fybix.com/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3401 Michele Mon, 01 May 2006 20:56:46 +0000 http://fybix.net/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3401 I agree with April. You have to get your life settled, meanwhile you can keep an eye on your brother. I think you can manage to live with your soul mate and also try to put your brother on the right path, but remember he is the only one that can choose the right path, you can only tell him what you feel like. I agree with April. You have to get your life settled, meanwhile you can keep an eye on your brother.

I think you can manage to live with your soul mate and also try to put your brother on the right path, but remember he is the only one that can choose the right path, you can only tell him what you feel like.

]]> By: April http://fybix.com/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3391 April Thu, 27 Apr 2006 05:22:47 +0000 http://fybix.net/2006/04/27/straddling/#comment-3391 You need to make the promise to your soul mate, and stick with her. At the same time, you can still help your brother out. I would do it while you're young and he's young so that it isn't harder for him when he gets older. Make sure to set up boundaries though. Don't feel guilty he dropped out though. You had to do what you felt you had to do, and he felt he had to do what he had to do. What's done is done, and it's better to focus on the good that could come out of all of this. Don't look back, look to the future. You need to make the promise to your soul mate, and stick with her. At the same time, you can still help your brother out. I would do it while you’re young and he’s young so that it isn’t harder for him when he gets older. Make sure to set up boundaries though. Don’t feel guilty he dropped out though. You had to do what you felt you had to do, and he felt he had to do what he had to do. What’s done is done, and it’s better to focus on the good that could come out of all of this. Don’t look back, look to the future.

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