Comments on: Inflamed

By: Thudor from Greece

Thudor from Greece — Fri, 19 May 2006 08:21:17 +0000

My congrats to you!
I completely agree with the first comment
and have to add that everything depends on the person.
For some people it is impossible to glue the broken cup,
but also you may not know whether your partner has really no feelings left to the old flame. Just keep your cup intact =)

By: April

April — Mon, 15 May 2006 01:08:10 +0000

I’ve been meaning to comment on this entry since yesterday, but I’ve been busy spending time with my family. Here’s the thing. I think the real question is if Hiromi knows you do not feel comfortable with her hanging out with an “old fling”, does she expect you to put up with that uncomfortable feeling? I think that in marriage there is give and take. I haven’t been married forever, but I have been married since I was 21 and now I am 27. Part of what makes our marriage good, is that we try very hard not to make either one of us unnecessarily uncomfortable. Keyword: unnecessary. Is going out with her old fling “necessary” or is protecting the feelings of her fiance necessary? Priorities are what marriage is all about.

By: Michele

Michele — Fri, 12 May 2006 19:16:10 +0000

First of all, congratulations on you getting married!

As for the old flames thing, it’s a difficult matter: I’d say old flames are not an issue as long as two are in love and trust each other. But this is just theory.
In the real world, it’s difficult to live it easily: you can trust the other person, but once there was something between her — or him — and the old flame; what if it spawned again?

Of course, the other person might meet someone while shopping and fall in love with that someone and leave you. But knowing there was already something between to person is a bit more…lean to worrying?

Anyway, just do what you think is right for your love.